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There's Nothing Wrong With You

alien alone ego isolated lonely spiritual unity Apr 26, 2022
There's Nothing Wrong With You

Once I was speaking to someone on the other side of the planet, we were discussing the deep seeded feeling that “there is something wrong with me”. They said to me “Oh, you guys have that too!”.

This showed me that this is a collective belief/feeling and is inherent in the current state of consciousness of human beings. The truth is, the belief that there is something wrong is a misperception.

It arises when we view reality through the mind. We feel disconnected from the rest of life, like lonely strangers in this vast universe. We feel like aliens on our own planet and amongst our own species.

We become so individuated, so isolated within the prison of our own thoughts that we feel alone in a room full of other beings. 

The mind filters reality, it superimposes a fabricated “world” over the top of the real world.

It is not based on reality, but is more of a projection over the top of the real word and this is why some new age spiritual teachings talk about “we create our own reality”.

This is true from one perspective, the mind creates its own reality via projecting and superimposing over existence itself. In a sense, one could call it a dream and it would be more true to say “we create our own dream”.

Because we experience living in this private, projected world we feel isolated and cut off from the totality. In the depths of our unconscious this creates a sense of smallness within ourselves, as well as feelings of being unsafe and alone.



Not only do we project our dream onto reality, but we also project it onto ourselves. When we self reflect we see ourselves in contrast to the external “world”.

Our experience is primarily a subjective one, what we experience as the objective world is actually happening subjectively, and our sense of self is also subjective and our experience becomes lived within the confines of the mind.

This is why ancient spiritual teachings state “The mind creates the world” and “The world is an illusion”. So long as we are living within this dreamscape feelings of deficiency will arise, the duality of “I am good enough” and “I am not good enough” exists as two sides of the same coin.

Some days we feel good enough, other days not good enough, and this is the cycle of what the Buddhists call Samsara, the wheel of suffering.

The sense of a personal self (ego) exists in the realm of “Becoming”. It can never reach wholeness or fullness, it is always becoming and it is driven by deficiency in order to keep becoming, becoming more and more.

Without deficiency it would stop dead in its tracks. There is nothing wrong with becoming, becoming is essential for evolution. The issue arises when our sense of identity is drawn from that dimension we feel that's all we are, and we begin an endless search to reach wholeness. 


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Though, it is futile as there is no end to this search in that dimension. In order to move out of the sense  “There is something wrong with me” we have to have a fundamental shift of identity from content to context. 

So long as we are drawing our sense of self from what our mind is telling us about who we are, we are bound to continue trying to fix, maintain, control and manipulate our experience of ourselves. 

Which is exhausting and in the end, futile. We have to realise ourselves as the space in which becoming arises. This realisation is the opening and beginning of our sense of unity with life, and the first glimpse of what lies beyond our mind. 

In peace,
The Centre for Healing

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