Interview with co-author of The Myth of Normal, Daniel Maté

Ryan & Matt, co-creators of Embodied Processing had the pleasure of recording a conversation with Daniel Maté.
Daniel is co-author with his father Gabor of the new groundbreaking book The Myth of Normal; Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture.

In this wide ranging discussion Daniel talks openly about:
- Bringing such an important book to life
- How the book has been received & how his life has changed since
- What healing actually can look like on an individual & collective level
- His own healing process (involving a Mexican immigration jail)
- The strains & healing in the relationship with his father Gabor
- Whether we should be hopeful or pessimistic about our future as a society

We hope you enjoy the chat as much as we did!

Get in touch with Daniel & Gabor:
Walk with Daniel - https://www.walkwithdaniel.com/ 
Daniel Maté website - https://www.danielmate.com/ 
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A trauma-sensitive perspective on abuser/abused, victim/narcissist 

This is part 3, please first refer to part 1 and part 2 before reading. (Click the highlighted link)

Last week I discussed the dynamics and conditioned responses of the nervous system that underpin pathological narcissism and create the dynamic between abuser and the abused.

Of course, there are many other factors aside from just the conditioned fight reflex that are embedded within the structure of narcissism, such as disturbances in the development of self representations and fractured psychic structures due to arrests in childhood individuation. Nonetheless, for reasons of understanding the dynamics the fundamentals are more important than the details in this case and it is not necessary to fully understand the finer details in order to heal or gain deeper insight. 

This week I am going to discuss healing from narcissism and from narcissistic abuse.

My intention is not to offer a...

A trauma-sensitive perspective on abuser/abused, victim/narcissist 

This is part 2, please first refer to part 1 before reading (click here)

Last week we explored the conditioning of the nervous system from the perspective of driving a car, but also how the nervous system becomes conditioned with a bundle of reactions and reflexes which show up in the way we relate to others.

Let's follow on from that and continue to explore how the victim/abuser cycle perpetuates itself and how both sides of the equation live from and in a trauma response which is perpetuated by the dynamic within the relationship.

 The dance becomes one of victim/perpetrator/rescuer. Usually our partner will mirror the opposite response to the one that dominates our patterning, if we are in a fight response and perpetrator role they will move into either a fawn, freeze or collapse (victim and rescuer).

The fawn or freeze causes them to be unable to leave the relationship, to walk on eggshells to...

A trauma-sensitive perspective on abuser/abused, victim/narcissist 

To understand trauma it is helpful to know how our nervous system becomes conditioned, the body’s ability to adapt and automatically respond to situations based on past events is a useful tool in many circumstance, for example when we are learning to drive a car it can really feel like its “me” that's learning to drive and will be continuing to drive, but really our conscious mind is only there to assist in conditioning the body to drive for us. 

Our cognitive understanding of how a car works, how to use the different functions, eg. gas and breaks and to really get a feel for what it’s like to drive we need our conscious mind. 

As we do this something is happening on a deeper level, what we are essentially doing is we are conditioning the body to drive the car so “I” don't have to think about it.

We are imprinting the nervous system with specific movements,...

One of the concepts that we teach in Root-Cause Therapy is called Mirroring.

When we judge others (which is a natural human thing that we do as a part of our experience), it can become a key to healing by discovering our shadow aspects.

Shadow aspects are our blind spots.

Things that we do, how we behave unconsciously.

Mirroring, or noticing where we judge others, gives us a chance to shed light on these shadow aspects.

And to see where we are actually seeing ourselves in others

Where we are actually judging ourselves. For example, judging someone for how they dress.

If this is something that you notice a lot and find yourself internally making negative comments as you often scan people up and down …

Then most likely it’s something that you may feel insecure about within yourself.

The root-cause of this shadow aspect could be one of many layers, and will be different from person to person.

But for example it may be…

• being judged harshly as a child or teen about...

Listen to the Interview with Scott Lawrence from Lawrence Hypnotherapy and Melissa Hiemann from The Centre for Healing about his experience completing the Trauma-Informed Manifestation Coaching Certification.

If you would like to learn more about this training - click here.

Before we begin I would like to point out that in these articles I am not preaching a specific viewpoint or belief system, but rather attempt to explore the dynamics which create them.

The exploration of trauma is a helpful tool in understanding what creates our conditioned and reactive response in any given situation.

The understanding that much of the way we interpret and interact with the world is based on survival adaptations is a helpful lens to assist us in viewing our behaviour objectively, and exposing the root causes behind the surface phenomenon.

In this article I am going to explore some sensitive topics, such as binary vs non binary, vaccine vs anti vaccine, religion vs spirituality and so on.

These can be very sensitive topics for a lot of people and cause a lot of division and conflict. So before we begin I would like to point out that I am not stating any for or against ideologies, views, beliefs or experiences.

I am not stating any personal opinion but rather...

In this class creators of Embodied Processing, Ryan & Matt, talk about the drivers of anxiety through the lens of trauma.

What's Covered:
- Types of Anxiety
- The Underlying Causes
- The Bandaids we use
- Healing Anxiety

Much Love,
The Centre for Healing

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