Safety & Integration

We often talk about Safety as an essential quality when it comes to healing trauma, but as with all language and wording people have their own presuppositions and perspectives on the word.

We may associate Safety with avoidance, like a "playing it safe" attitude, or we may associate it with feeling smothered, as our parents may have been over bearing in attempting to keep us safe.

In this article I am going to give some context around safety and integration, and also give voice to some pitfalls I have seen people and practitioners fall into whilst attempting to heal trauma. 

Safety in the context of healing trauma is not an avoidance strategy, it is a quality that is conducive and essential for the integration and release of unmetabolized stress. Safety was what was lacking in the moment the response got stuck.

Lack of safety is the reason for trauma, we felt out of control, overwhelmed, alone, disconnected and unsupported in the midst of our distress and so we were unable...

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The Importance of Safety in Healing

 


"Safety is Healing" - Dr Stephen Porges

When someone has accumulated many traumatic imprints throughout their life, with no skills to regulate or process then the nervous system loses its sense of Safety.

We can go decades without truly feeling safe in our bodies.
At this point there is no capacity to deal with life's various situations & challenges.

When we Grow in Capacity then we have a solid foundation to deal with these challenges.
A container of Safety will start to build resilience and the emotional reactions can be dissolved into this safety.

Once our capacity continues to grow then the old emotional wounds from our past can be welcomed back to be integrated.

Feeling safe in the body can be a gradual process.
Like planting a seed. If we water that seed and continually look after it, it will grow.

We know we are growing when our language changes from "I can't handle this" to "I got this!"

Peace,
Ryan Hassan (Co-Founder at The Centre for Healing)

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3 Myths About Trauma

 


3 Myths about Trauma

1 - Trauma is what happens to us

We classically think of trauma as a certain event, sexual abuse, veteran at war, car crash.
Trauma is actually what happens INSIDE of us as a result of external stimulus.

Here is what happens inside during trauma:
- A Nervous System in Overwhelm (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn)
- Stored Emotional Energy / Survival Stress
- Creation of Painful Narratives
- Orphaned Parts

When we don't have a stable Resource of Safety to process the first 2, we then create the second 2.

This is the birth of a trauma & the associated trauma responses in similar life situations.


2 - What is traumatic for one person is traumatic for everyone

Based on the above point of trauma happening inside, we can see that different events may or may not be traumatic to a certain individual.

Some events will be traumatic to 95% of the population, some for 50% of the population and some events will only be traumatic to 5% of people.
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