Having a baby is a major event. I know myself, my now 14th month old has finally stopped screaming (as much) and is almost walking on his own… it’s truly amazing to watch.

From my personal experience, the hardest thing is watching your baby be in pain or distressed and not knowing what to do to help.

 It’s a guessing game until you get to know each other. Is it wind? Are they hungry? Do they need their nappy changed? Do they hate me from bringing them into the world?

The poor little thing has grown from a couple of small cells inside your womb and spent 9 months in a nicely incubated, self feeding, safe place - to the bright lights, loud noises and big humans.

 In the work that we do, when we do healings on people and ask for the root-cause to be able to heal their current issues - so many times we go back to the womb, the birth or within the first few years of life.

Here are some patterns that we have found that have come up over conducting thousands of sessions (and science is finally catching up to confirm a lot of this too);

• When the baby is in the womb, it is getting ready to come out into the environment of its family. To prepare for this, babies in the womb can sense what the mother is feeling, what she is thinking, the energy between the mother and father, the energy of how the other siblings interact (if any). The majority of our clients have some kind of trauma or trapped emotion from when they were in their mum's womb, but their mind has taken it as their own. For example, I ask my client's unconscious mind to take us to the root-cause to heal the client's anxiety around being alone. It says the womb, 5 months gestation. We go there and they have an immense feeling of anxiety in their chest but they aren’t sure why. We get them to (finally) release that anxiety that they have been holding onto since being in the womb that still affects them today. Once the emotion is released, they are able to gain clarity on the event and realise that that is how their mum was feeling at the time (maybe the mum was rejected by her family, or her partner wasn’t coming home and making her anxious, or who knows she may have gotten it from her mum). It wasn’t even their own feeling! They naturally felt it by being inside their mum's body! Once the realisation is made on the conscious level and the emotions have finally left their body, they can complete healing the pattern of anxiety around being alone in their life and they often never have that particular issue again.
  *side note - having experienced this with clients over and over again made me make sure I was in a safe and supportive relationship, that I focused on being calm during my pregnancy. 
• If a baby is born into a family where expressing emotions or being emotional is not accepted (this is usually another passed down trait, thankfully most generations are getting better at this). Then when a baby is screaming or a toddler is having a tantrum, if the parents cannot handle their own emotions, it will be very difficult to handle anyone else's and hold a loving understanding space for them. This or the ‘crying it out’ sleep training method can teach the baby that it isn’t okay to express emotions or not feel okay. Like they are a good ‘boy or ‘girl’ if they are in a good mood. Or a bad boy/girl if they are frustrated or sad. These leads to them not feeling safe to express their negative emotions and start to bottle them up at a young age. Yet, the emotions are still there and waiting to get triggered. This is why sometimes adults have outbursts and over reactiveness and almost be acting like a 2-year-old - often it is their 2-year-old anger still trapped in them.
• Another one is abandonment. It could be something little, like when I was 3 my mum left me inside to play while she went outside to do some gardening. I wasn’t even that upset or yell for her but in that moment I decided that I was a loner. A lot of clients though may have an event in their healing session where they were left at childcare or lost their mum at the shops. They got emotional enough for it to burn a strong belief into their mind and body that they are now alone. So when people come to us with this belief, they often feel alone, even when around others or they may even unconsciously sabotage relationships so they stay alone (even though it's their biggest fear because the emotion is still playing out, even if they cannot consciously remember). 

I just want to say, from one parent to the other, that I am in no way trying to guilt you. I am known as a very straightforward kind of therapist and can come across as cold sometimes (I am an Aquarius). But in all honesty, I just want people to be more aware. You cannot control how someone is perceiving an event - one baby might be fine while another in the same situation is traumatised. We are just doing the best we can. The more conscious we become of repercussions on babies and how it will affect (and sometimes not show) until adult life - the more conscious generations we can create to positively affect society as a whole.

Some things we just cannot help, no matter how conscious we are. Like if to save the babies or mums lives an emergency c-section had to occur and the baby wasn’t able to be put straight onto the mum's chest for bonding. This may cause an issue with breastfeeding or the mum may get postnatal depression due to the traumatic birth experience. 

Here are a few ways you can start to heal your baby;

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Written by: Melissa Hiemann. Mum to Tommy Brave, Partner to Ryan Hassan. Co-Founder of The Centre for Healing. Creator of the Root-Cause Therapy Method.