When we think of trauma we often think of what happened, sexual abuse, war, bullying, domestic violence, neglect etc. We think of periods of time or single events that caused distress and made a lasting impact on us.
Here at The Centre for Healing we define the trauma as what happens inside of a person as a result of what happened to them, or, what didn't happen, the imprint left within their psyche and nervous system from these kinds of experience is the trauma.
What many of us don't realise is that trauma is not always about what happened, quite often the imprint that is left within us is about what didn't happen.
When our experience lacks a certain quality, or a need goes unmet this also can leave a very damaging and lasting imprint that we carry with us for the rest of our lives. Developmental trauma can certainly and quite often show up as overt abuse and neglect, and as very obvious events that happen throughout one's childhood that cause arrests in development, but the other...
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Relationship issues can be one of the toughest things to work through in our life, whether that be family, friends, work colleagues, or even our partner. Knowing how to identify issues and find solutions fast is essential to preserving these relationships.
If you don't know anything about Root-Cause Therapy, then I will tell you a little bit about it now.
Root-Cause Therapy is a trauma healing method that uses regression to allow the completion of unprocessed emotions which are still presently causing unwanted thoughts, behaviours and symptoms in one's life.
With advanced ways of testing and discovering the actual causation of the currently presenting unease within oneself, we find the actual cause which could be reflecting itself through negative life patterns, thoughts and choices.
A qualified practitioner facilitates the client to tap into the self-healing mechanisms of the deeper parts of...
"The State that we're in & the Emotions we're Experiencing will dictate the course of our Lives"
When we came into this world we started learning many things.
Crawling, walking, talking, socialising, sport, eating, etc...
One thing most of us didn't learn was how to properly process emotions.
This is no ones fault, if our parents knew they would of taught us.
If you're reading this then it's safe for me to assume that you're on a personal growth journey and/or working in the field of helping others.
On that path, early on, we realise that our emotions are controlling our life.
If we want to start to master our life we must first master our emotions.
This doesn't mean we don't have emotional reactions, for this is part of being a human being.
It means being able to contain them and not get lost in their energy.
In the above video we discuss different techniques for processing emotions, both from day to day life and from our past.
The underlying theme they all have is that we Turn...
My best teacher, our toddler Tommy, reminded me of the following and I thought I would share it with you all as it's an important part of the human condition.
Because he cannot express verbally with words how he is feeling, he will express it by showing how he is feeling outwardly.
The basic mechanism is that as parents, we start feeling how he is feeling, and thus with this information we can take appropriate action to give him what he needs. This is emotional attunement.
For example, if he’s frustrated because he is hungry, he will start getting very upset and refuse any toy or show or anything that we offer him other than food. His on-going frustration will probably lead to a tantrum and crying ... and guess what ... we will become frustrated. We will start getting angry (and hopefully not have a tantrum as well).
We don’t want to feel that way, and neither does he, so we finally figure out that he is extra hungry today and everyone can relax again. It’s been a...